Several articles on Singing and Songs and Worship
Good words hereabout packing too much into a sermon.
One skill a shepherd needs is knowing how to have hard conversations.
In Necessary Endings, Henry Cloud articulates a number of points that I have learned the hard way over the years. (See p. 199ff) I will integrate my thoughts with his.
1. Don’t put off the conversation because you dread the difficulty of it. But don’t rush in. Pray through it and have a plan. What should be in that plan?
2. Begin with the end in mind. Where will the conversation end? “I want to leave the conversation with the person knowing…..” My conversations have often called for repentance – a change of mind resulting in a change of direction. What will happen if there is no change of direction? Be ready for that.
3. Combine care and truth. Have a balance of both. Care about the person and care about the truth. Know your tendency. Do you tend to be too squishy? Do you tend to be too harsh? Be honest, clear, caring, authoritative.
4. Write out the wording. Cloud suggests role-playing. Though I have never done that, I have written out what the facts were or what I wanted to say. Saying something like, (his wording), “I have a list of things I wanted to make sure we covered,” is not strange.
5. Get the tone right. Have a gentle, caring, calm tone can keep the conflict at the lowest necessary point. Moving into a stressed, argumentative, louder, overbearing tone starts to heat the conversation up. It is not only what we say, but how we say it that counts.
6. Be ready for evasion and defensiveness. If we begin with the end in mind, then we will need to prepare for a lack of receptiveness. That often involves listening to the person well, and staying on track with the point of the conversation. “I understand….. but I want to make sure you understand what I am saying…”
7. Express your care for the other person. See #3. God cares for him or her. You should also. Let him know that. Let him know how this sin is dishonoring God but that you are still committed to loving him biblically.
8. Call for repentance. If you are speaking as spiritual authority and sin is involved, then it is good and right to call for a decision. “In Christ’s name, I am calling on you to repent of….. Will you repent of this sin?
9. Bottom line: cultivate the fear of God, not the fear of man. Having hard conversations will not make you popular. But God will see, and bless it. Others will hear and respect you for it.
Hard conversations have to happen. They are a form of correction. The questions is do we have the courage to have those hard conversations. And when we do have them, are we speaking skillfully?
This post from John Piper argues that the defining sound of worship is congregational singing. I would agree, perhaps with a twist of congregational participation mostly expressed through singing.
They link to this article where the writer says
1. If we the congregation can’t hear ourselves its not worship.
2. If we can’t sing along its not worship
3. If you, the praise band are the center of attention, its not worship.
Yes! Well said! There are many more corollaries that could flow from John Pipers definition.
4. Sing songs together. Don’t just give us a few.
5. Teach us how to sing at home so that we don’t take up time learning in the service.
6. Judiciously, introduce new songs.
7l Make sure our congregations repertoire is rich.
8. Remind us that singing is a command and a fruit of being filled with the spirit.
Idea – Preach a sermon of your favorite preacher. e.g.Spurgeon
I have long loved the doctrines of grace. But I have been unwilling to call myself a Calvinist. Why? There was baggage associated with a Christian culture that I did not like. – Pride, Hypercriticalness, Lack of concern for the lost, Stuffy worship. In recent years, some of that has abated.
But now Tim Challies highlights a new book where the author takes Calvinists to task for killing Calvinism. His concern is that some Calvinists:
- By loving Calvinism as an end in itself
- By becoming a theologian instead of a disciple
- By loving God’s sovereignty more than God himself
- By losing an urgency in evangelism
- By learning only from other Calvinists
- By tidying up the Bible’s “loose ends”
- By being an arrogant know-it-all
- By scoffing at the hang-ups others have with Calvinism
1 Peter 4:15 – Meddling – allotriepiskopos, lit. “overseer of the affairs of another,” In a sinlist with murder, thief, criminal.
Other English definitions – to interest oneself in what is not one’s concern : interfere without right or propriety
The actual act of meddling also means that the meddler is not a neutral party. Typically the meddler gets involved without understanding the whole picture. The meddler tries to portray themselves as a nice person who is “just trying to help” while they, in fact, make things much worse.
Mediation is different than meddling.
Websters 18:28 – 1. To have to do; to take part; to interpose and act in the concerns of others, or in affairs in which one’s interposition is not necessary; often with the sense of intrusion or officiousness.