Another post on this subject here at the blog Sunday Women.
NEVER share your negative speculations. There are people in ministry who are tough to love, but it’s destructive to share assumptions about their motives.
RARELY share information particularly disturbing to your spouse. Me? I can’t stomach details of substance abuse, so my husband loves me by keeping silent.
RARELY share hurtful information that has no solution. If it can’t be fixed, don’t bother sharing.
SOMETIMES share hurtful information that has a solution. These things can be fixed or, at least, helped.
SOMETIMES share hurtful information because its burden is too great. Some secrets need the additional comfort, wisdom, or prayer that only your spouse can give.
OFTEN share information that will soon be public knowledge. This gives your spouse a chance to mentally, emotionally, and spiritually prepare.
ALWAYS share encouragement. Spiritual fruit, progress in holiness, and success in gospel labor are things every spouse needs to hear.
Good thoughts for us as elders/shepherds. Read the whole thing.